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What I/We did - What happened

Saturday, November 13, 2010 Posted by Bikram
Well here we go , Replying to the post on the kids left in the car Question please do answer , By now most people know what I do, so please don't ask what I do :) I cant say it here as such..


Anyway So we waited for the people to come , it was the grandma and the father of the kid who had gone for a minute to get a pack of ciggies ....

The guy smiled and went to the drivers seat, which my partner stopped him to to, the smile went off, and I went on to talk to him asking him why were they so stupid to leave the kids in the car

"It was locked ", NO IT WAS NOT

"It was alarmed", So I could still get to them , and no one bothers these days about the alarm as there are so many going on during the day.

Well as we were talking to him telling him pro's and cons of the situation, he said something like
"You don't have anything better to do"

Ah well I had , had enough by then, I told him it was against the law, to which he got aggressive , At this moment I was also thinking if social services were involved it would not be in favour of the kids as Parents are the best people to take care of the kids.

The Grandma was pleading at this time, that the kid was asleep so they did not want to disturb the kids , and they parked under the light and a CCTV to be safer..  Which to me sounded genuine at the time..

So we reached a conclusion with the grandma that The mother of the children to be contacted and the kids sent with her, Cause we were not happy letting the father take the kids ..

THIS IS WHEN THE S%$£ hit the ceiling....

The guy lost it , he lashed out, we ended up in a tussle , holding him, More Police came, The guy arrested ...
The grandma sent home

The kids taken in care,  social services were informed ...

The Mother was contacted , She later came and took charge of the kids...

The couple were divorced and he had the kids for the few days .. Well I guess when it goes to court that wont happen again, he will probably loose the chance to take care of the kids, as I imagine the guy was not in his mind.

It was also discovered the Posh car was out of Tax and Had no MOT so That was also seized, and will be sent to be crushed...

So I guess without going into details all in all it was a Good job done .. :) 

The father behind bars, the kids safe and sound with the mother, she seemed to be good ,genuinly hurt, emotionally upset .. The grandma sent home as she was jsut a passenger and not responsible for the kids , since the father was there...

Do let me know if someone could or Would have done Different


And I am glad seeing the comments to the previous post.. everyone feels the way I felt and it does not make me the ODD ONE OUT :)  and To add it all I reached home very late. Thank you ALL.

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57 Response to "What I/We did - What happened"

  1. Stranger Says:

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  3. Stranger Says:

    I would have done nearly the same. I will stay with the kid and make sure that he is safe until his father came.

    Only thing is I may not have entered into an argument with the father. I am more peaceful and more quiet so I would have left the place with a silent prayer.

    I genuinely appreciate and applaud what you did. You did the right thing and I wish there are more people on this world like you than me.... I dont know why but my first instinct is to give away...

  4. Phoenixritu Says:

    Pity such unsuitable and irresponsible people become parents.

  5. sujata Says:

    I would have stayed with the kid as well! God thats height of irresponsible parenting !

  6. Smitha Says:

    Thank god that guy is behind bars. And I hope he does lose his right to look after his children, because clearly he is not doing much of it. People like these just should become parents. I feel so sorry for the poor kids for having to go through all this.. Just hope it never happens to them again.

  7. The Bald Guy Says:

    You're a great guy Bikram. You did good for the kids.

  8. RGB Says:

    You did a good job. The guy deserved it. How could he be so irresponsible with his own kids!

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  10. Enigma Says:

    You did the right thing! Glad that everything went well.

  11. Tanishka... Says:

    You did a great job, such people deserve no pity... This is what the loser deserved... And now he would get a lesson for the life time... Well done...

  12. Tanishka... Says:

    You did a great job, such people deserve no pity... This is what the loser deserved... And now he would get a lesson for the life time... Well done...

  13. Nethra Says:

    You did the right thing. Probably, I would have done the same.

  14. chitra Says:

    People who have no time children. Let them not have it. It is total injustice to children bringing them into this world and neglecting.Good job. Pat...

  15. Deepika Vasudeva Says:

    i guess wat u did is right. maybe i wud have done the same thing.
    cheers :)

  16. Ananth Majumdar Says:

    Wow Bikram.. I'm inspired...YOu are a doer man.. You have done whatever is best.. Gr8 job..

  17. A Says:

    You acted right. Lawful and morally correct.

  18. ~*. D E E P A .* ~ Says:

    i guess it is right ... but no1 cared to find out if the kids wanted to be with the father, though he may be a bad parent

  19. ~*. D E E P A .* ~ Says:

    cant understand why the granny also left the car

  20. Punam Says:

    Agree with Ananth, every bit. You are a doer.

  21. Lakshmi Rajan Says:

    wow. That was a great job done and I can bet many of us reading this won't be a doer but just an observant. Well done mate!

  22. sm Says:

    you did great job.
    thanks for sharing great story.
    sure inspire all of us.

  23. Harman Says:

    you did a wonderful job....kicked out that A*****E ..and kids r safe..
    we need people like you!!
    keep up the good work...well done!!

  24. raji Says:

    Hi bikram good job ..I think this could have been the best possible answer to the question!

  25. Rachna Says:

    You did right! I would have done the same.

  26. Jyothi Says:

    Great Job! I would have stayed with the kids too.

  27. Ria Says:

    Thanks for letting us know this facet of urs...Yes i wud hav done the same thing.

  28. saritha Says:

    Good job done bikram,i dont think i would have guts to have a tussle with that guy.I could have kept a watch on the kids until the father came.

  29. suruchi Says:

    And there you go...my knight in shining armour...
    I so knew you’d do so n so glad that u did!
    Though keeping with my drama type imagination...
    I almost imagined u ripping apart your shirt like Sunny paji n thundering like Dharmendra paji...
    :-)
    You are such a cute noble soul...
    It is amazing how many facets there are to u...n each one is as adorable as the other:-)

    Proud of u, sir ji:-)

  30. DiDo Says:

    Good Job Bikram :) ..so so so very proud of u..1
    In mumbaiyya lingo.."khopche me leke jaake dena tha kharcha paani" ;)

  31. BK Chowla, Says:

    i am so glad that I follow a very nice and genuine person.
    Great job.

  32. rohini Says:

    THUMBS UP!!!!!!
    i agree with Mr. Chowla...nt only he bt all ur followers must be proud that they are reading ur blogs..which are so motivating encouraging and an eye opening posts
    wat u taught was a good lesson to him ...and many like him,...double thumbs up....:)
    hey can i say....Singh is King....singh is king....lalaaa..:))

  33. comfortablynam Says:

    To me the kids come first..so am glad they are doing fine..and had someone who took care of them when they were in need. Hope they are happy staying with their mom from now on..

  34. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    stranger
    Hey welcome to my blog, thats for the visit please do visit again...

    Well we did not want to argue either but he went beserk, and he lashed out at us first .. We are trained and taught to use the gift of the GOB first always and then take it from there .. but sometimes it cant be helped

    Well put it this way i could not give it up :) thats me he heehhe

    Thanks

  35. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Phoenixritu
    Ritu bhen, so true they dont know or have a clue what they are getting into.. its sad to see most divorces make kids vulnerable ..



    sujata
    YEah indeed thats the first choice or first step of action

  36. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Smitha
    Yeah he is or was but now the judge has to take that decision.. lets see wat they think the so called higher authorities :)
    Yeah i hope too this doesnot happen again .. to them ...

    but i think they were at a age where they would hardly remmeber so good for them, they would not want ot remmeber this ...

  37. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    TBG
    Thanks a lot for saying that , Glad you think that way about me ..


    RGB
    Thank you RGB. He indeed deserved it, exactly my question to him.. to which he had no reply

    Enigma
    Thank you so much for saying that.


    Nethra
    Thank you, I think all would have done what we did, i guess its basic common sense not to leave the kids ..

  38. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Tanishka
    Hi welcome to my blog, thank you...
    I am glad you think i did right.. I hope he does get a lesson for life and that people around there also learn from this ...


    Chitra
    TOtally agree , if you dont have time dont have children.. or make time fo them..

    Thanks for the PAT.. i gave myself one he he hehe


    Deepika Vasudeva
    Thank you, am sure you too would have done the same ... anyone would have done what we did

  39. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Ananth
    WOW.. Thanks mate.. for saying that .. THank you thank you ...


    A
    Thanks a lot.. yeah thats what we could do best at the time.. Thank you , you felt that way tooo


    ~*. D E E P A .* ~
    Well The kids were too young, the eldest daughter was 5 years old, how do you expect Her to know whats good for her, as such the father had a few days of care for them.. otherwise they were with there mother..
    The granny exactly I asked her how would you feel if it was your own kid, but then on second thoughts We know how HER own kid behaved so what can we say to her.. its jsut one of those things

  40. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Punam
    Glad you agree with him. thanks

    Lakshmi Rajan
    Thanks mate, and welcome here to my blog, do visit again tooo ..
    No no I am positive that when it comes right in front of the eyes people beahve differently , so I am sure all of us would have done something ..
    its not easy to jsut walk by, and the world is not that bad a place, all of us are good people so all of us would have done something..

    Thank you so much.

  41. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    SM
    Thank you so much for saying that, I hope yes reading people take care what is going around them :)
    world would be a good place to live in if we all take ccare of each other ...


    Harman
    Thank you so much, I was waiting for your comment :)
    I am sure there are a lot of people better then me out there, thats why the world is a good place to live in.

    Raji
    Thanks a lot. I am glad you think that way .. so i guess i did the right thing :) Thanks

  42. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Rachna
    Thank you so much, I am glad you think that way.

    Jyothi
    Thank you so much.

    Ria
    what face is that .. the fighting arguing one he he hehe :) Glad to hear you would have done the same ..


    Saritha
    Thank you saritha. Well the tussle he started, i guess he had a history with his Ex and did not want the kids to go to her, so we had no other option other than to take him down..

    I dont use force till it is entirely necessary, I talk a lot he he eh ethe gift of GOB as they say so it helps .. moreover he had something in his hand that we had to take care of ..

    cud not help that...
    thank you

  43. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Suruchi
    he he he he YEH DHAI KILLO KA HAATH.. kaash mera haat hota :)
    and dharmendra Chun chun ke maroonga chun chun ke he he heeh
    Sunny paaji se training laini padegi shayad mere ko hana : )

    Oh my oh my I am so glad you came and commented ,

    lai noble soul and me no no shhhhhhhhh dont say that people will start to laugh so much..

    Now you humble me suruchi, cum on..
    Zayada praise nahin karo NAJAR na lag jaye fir sunny deol ki jagah AMRISH PURI na ban jaunn he hehehee

    Thank you so much for saying such nice things about me , I am goign ot cut past it and print it and hang it on my wall in a portrait and then show everyone ..
    this is what I am thought of yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

    Thank you and waise People who are themselves beautiful at heart always think other are too.. So aap khudh ache ho so you think i am also acha bacha :)
    so proud of you Madam ji :) waise yahan we use the word Mom.. for ladies :)

  44. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Dido
    Thank you so much.. I am glad you are proud of me .. and i wish i could use that language would have been fun.. going on the radio..
    Ey boss bhej.. yahan ek ko leke jaane ka khoche main ..

    he hehee How will you say is ko leke chalo andar.. :)


    nice one thank you


    BK Chowla
    Sir, now you humble me saying all that, I am pround and honoured that you read what i write.. that itself is such a good feeling.
    I dont know about nice or genuine but i always try that when i come home after work i am smiling or if i meet anyone on road i dont have to lower my eyes .. and that i can look into there eyes straight...

    Thank you so much SIR

  45. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    Rohini Ji
    Ahh haa Thank you.. and as I said to Chowla sir.. I am honoured and thank you for reading me, and thinking that way about me .. Its my pleasure ...

    Oh yes singh is king indeed for sure, this reminds me my senior usually tells me before i go out , Mr. Singh dont cause any trouble we already have enough out there he hehe

  46. Bikramjit Singh Mann Says:

    comfortablynam
    Yes kids always come first, thats what is told to us too, they come first no matter what .. the first priority is there safety then you take the next thing..

    Yes I am sure they are, the mother seemed to be quiet happy and good lady.. and the kids were happy to see her toooo so i am told...

    Yeah they had been living with her, that day was the fathers day hence with him..

    thank you so much.

  47. writerzblock Says:

    Kudos, Bikki!! Really well done. I would have stayed with the Kids but would not have dared to confront the dad. We really need to be more brave like you!!!

  48. Madhu Says:

    oh mera hunk..u did it absolutely right..are u not such a noble soul??

  49. drpratibha Says:

    Action speaks louder than words and you proved it. I think that person exactly deserve like this and credit goes to you as citizen,a parent on whom a child could depend and proud.you deserve a huge round of applause and comments on an extraordinary achievement.

  50. Bikramjit Says:

    writerzblock
    THanks pallaviiii :) well confronting the dad well that comes with the job, so had to do it :)

    No i would suggest dont be brave, in todays time and age you never know what the other person is capable of .. so I would not tell you to be brave rather ring the enforcements :)

  51. Bikramjit Says:

    Madhu
    Tum impress hui na .. yayyyyyyyyyyyyyy That was the whole idea yayyyyyyyyyyy he he he he

    Thank you thank you for saying that...

    Regarding being a noble soul well the prople around me need ot answer that though i am sure there will be a lot of people here to on the blog who would say otherwsie about me ... :)
    so dont hold on to it he he hehe I can be EVIL tooooo

  52. Bikramjit Says:

    drpratibha
    THank you so much. Exactly my thought that a child's welfare depends on the parents so they needed to b asked the question when they dont do what is expected out of them.

    THank you i feel humbled now for saying all that .. My partner was with me so he deserves everything you said ... Thank you.

  53. Blogger Girl Says:

    You did the right thing... people like him don't deserve the right to be known as parents more as pathetic loosers instead!

    If they really needed "ciggies" so badly, why did they both have to leave? One could have easily stayed in the car with the kids though! It's not like a pack of "ciggies" weighs a ton? I think the father and the grandma are both equally dumb and responsible for the stupid incident...

    I hope the mother of kids is responsible and sensible enough to take care of the kids and not cause them more trouble and pain... this makes me wonder why are people having kids if they don't have the mental, physical, financial resources to support their upbringing??

    And no, you are not the odd one... anyone in your place would have done the same thing...

    Great Job!

    - Mannat

  54. Ajay Says:

    Ithe lai ke ao, Punjab police de dhakke chadha dena si. They would have thought a hundred times leaving the kids again, punjab police ne paise hi inne lai laine si, cigarrate ki petrol paan de paise nahin si hone uhna kol.

    Paaji told you so many time No risks yaar.. and say Congrats to your partner too, he did a good job too.


    AJ

  55. Alka Gurha Says:

    After reading ur post all I can say is that you are a very patient person....It is soo embarassing when the other person goes on 'Remember me..Pehchana? And when u have absolutely no clue as to who is on the line.

  56. Swaram Says:

    Am glad the kids r in safe hands now!

  57. Raj - Only name sake !! Says:

    You have done the best thing!

    In India as far as I know , if people can afford children they love them the most!

    That guy should not touch the kids again!